As a student of Personality Type Theory I am aware of a major difference in how people deal with the world. There are Perceivers who prefer to gather data. There are Judgers who prefer to make decisions. It’s not a cut and dry distinction. There are shades of grey. It’s a continuum. Some people a much more on one side or the other. Other folks split the difference and fall near the middle. Me, I’m a relatively strong J (Judging type).
We like things orderly. We follow the rules and go by the schedule. We feel better after a decision has been made. My favorite J character is President Jed Bartlett from the TV series, The West Wing. He was always saying “What’s next?” Js pitfall is that they might jump to conclusions.
Perceptives, on the other hand, feel better while they are still gathering data. Plus they never met a decision they wouldn’t be happy to make again. Do overs are their specialties. Ps pitfall is that they tend to procrastinate.
These preferences apply themselves so that Js tend to be early and Ps tend to be late. Hence, Compulsively early vs. the 15 minute rule. As a strong J I am almost always early (unless I’m bringing my wife). However, I am perfectly okay with waiting at least 15 minutes for others to show up. Sure, I’d rather they were punctual, but I’ll wait.
When it comes to Hospice care it can be important to understand these difference. The general population is about evenly divided between the two preference. I’m sure, by now you have figured out which you are. Are you mostly early, waiting for others to show? Or are you mostly late and hoping others will wait for you?
Of course the 15 minute rule is a culture set. In some cultures you could be a day late and still be early!
Anyway, keep these differences in mind regardless of your place in the Hospice picture. Try to adjust your preferences to the needs of the patient as well as the needs of the professionals. For example, I know by now it is foolish of me to think that just because I got to the Doctor’s office 15 minutes early that he might actually see me 30 minutes later. Fat chance! It will be at least an hour.
In the book The official rules it suggests that the real way to know how long something will take is to begin with the first estimate, double the number and go to the next level. For example, 15 minutes becomes 30 hours. 2 days becomes 4 weeks. Get the picture.
Bottom line. Be patient, learn to wait and when it is up to you try to be punctual!